Blind Spots

How are you unwittingly getting in your own way?

What we don't know hurts us.

Humans will go to great lengths to avoid looking in the mirror. The truth about ourselves can be hard to stomach, but we can only reach our full potential when we dare to see ourselves clearly. How? Through relationships. We need other people to refract the parts of us we can’t, don't, and won’t see.

It’s impossible to discover the truth about who we are on our own. We have to seek it out intentionally. Identify people you trust and solicit their feedback. As you listen to what they share, maintain an open mind. If you find yourself having a defensive reaction to what you hear, step back. Ask, "What are the implications for my life if this information is true?" Remember that feedback is always influenced by the giver's own perceptions, and not every critique will be accurate. However, dismissing feedback outright simply because it is uncomfortable can be detrimental. You’re the only one who stands to lose if you don’t integrate feedback that will ultimately help you improve.

"Average players want to left alone, good players want to be coached, and great players want to be told the truth."

-Nick Saban

When it comes to self-awareness, you have a choice. Will you opt-in? Naievte may be comfortable in the short run, but ignorance won't lead to long-term bliss. You can surround yourself with cheerleaders, but positive pep talks alone won't help you reach the next level. If you're serious about self-improvement, pursue sources of unvarnished truth.

Who is helping you see your blind spots?

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